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Ho’oponopono – Take Total Responsibility

Ho’oponopono.  What the heck is Ho’oponopono?

I want to share with you a book that I have probably read 8 times, cover to cover over the past couple of years, and each time it has always cut to the roots of my soul. The book is entitled “Zero Limits – The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More” by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len, PhD.    There is something about this book that connects with me, deeply, and yet never in exactly the same way.
Here is a quote from Morrhan Nalamaku Simeona, the creator of modern Ho’oponopono, and who was named a Living Treasure by the State of Hawaii in 1983: “Ho’oponopono is a profound gift that allows one to develop a working relationship with the Divinity within and learn to ask that in each moment, our errors in thought, word and deed, or action be cleansed.  The process is essentially about freedom, complete freedom from the past.”
Read that quote about Ho’oponopono over and over, and try to let it sink into your mind and your soul.  What does it mean?  How can it help us?  I think to really understand what she is saying, you need to read the book (I got it from Chapters, but maybe it is available from your local library?)
The book details Joe Vitale’s quest to meet the man who has carried on the tradition of Ho’oponopono.  Joe had found an article on the internet about a counsellor who had healed an entire wing of “mental hospital” with out ever seeing the patients.  Joe was intrigued to find out more about this, and it started him down a road of self discovery.
I am not sure I can describe with any degree of clarity what exactly Ho’oponopono is, and how it works, but each time I read it, digest it, and practice it…it gets a little bit clearer (at least in my own mind) for me.  Ho’oponopono is about taking personal responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life, whether you feel it is your doing or not.  It is about working on yourself, on healing yourself.  And only then, once you have healed yourself on that matter, can that matter be solved.

4 Basic Phrases of Ho’oponopono

Dr. Hew Len taught Joe (and many others) 4 basic phrases to say constantly in Ho’oponopono, to work on yourself, in a process he calls “cleaning”.
I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
If you feel you have been wronged by someone, Dr. Hew Len is saying that in Ho’oponopono you have to clean your own mind, your own thoughts, and only by doing this will you help the situation.  So if someone does something you think is backstabbing you, you need to take personal responsibility for causing it somehow, because reality only exists inside your mind…so somehow you must have created the incident.  It is YOUR life.
What threw me at first is I thought I was being asked to say those words to the person I was angry with.  Why should I ask this person to forgive me, when they have been the one who has wronged me?  But with further readings about Ho’oponopono in the book, it began to dawn on me that I am saying this to myself, to the higher consciousness or the Divine within myself.  As Dr. Hew Len said “I was simply cleaning the part of me that I share with them.”
Ho’oponopono says that there are 2 ways to live your life, “from memory or from inspiration.  Memories are old programs replaying.  Inspiration is the Divine giving you a message.  The only way to hear the Divine and receive inspiration is to clean all memories.  The only thing you have to do is clean.”
This is so powerful.

Ho’oponopono: Memories or Inspiration?

Are you just replaying old thoughts again and again and again?    Is your mind cluttered with old memories (that may not even be accurate any more) that do nothing except cause you to hold yourself down, to not allow yourself to achieve the happiness and greatness that you could.
What would it be like if you could actually free your mind to receive inspiration directly from the Divine?  How empowering would that be?  How different would you feel?  How would your life be different.
The other day I was out for my power walk.  There is an intersection with a very quick light, and so the do not walk sign flashes up before I can even take a few steps.  I waited as I should for the light to turn green, and started to cross in a proper fashion.  As I was crossing, a car pulled up close to me and honked.  I turned and saw an older gentleman sitting there, quite irate, shaking his finger back and forth, and pointing to the do now walk sign (however the traffic signal was still green).   He was so mad at me, when the do not walk clearly said DO NOT WALK.
I kept walking, feeling shaken, and then an anger overcame me.  I thought what a pompous crusty old bugger.  I’ll bet he has never bothered to walk across a road, he always drives his big old Benz.  But then I began to think about Ho’oponopono.  I thought about what I had read, and realized that I had caused this somehow.  I had to take personal responsibility for it, and clean my mind.  So I said what I had learned…
I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
IMMEDIATELY all my anger and feeling of hurt dissipated.  My breathing calmed and cleared.  I felt strangely serene and happy.  It was wonderful.
Whenever I think of things from the past, things that are not happy, I realize I am living my life from memories that keep replaying.  No matter how bad they are, I just say those four phrases over and over and over…and I always, every single time…feel better.  There is something so magical and so powerful about Ho’oponopono.
Here is a link to a Ho’oponopono page on the web.  I am sure you can find other goodies if you look.
Please, if you have an opportunity, read this book.  You may read it and think I am a lunatic and it is a bunch of mumbo jumbo….but you may also read it, and something about it may strike the core of your soul as it has struck mine.
Peace of I



This sounds very interesting! i have memories and flash backs that play over and over in my head like a broken record. It sounds like something i need to do 🙂


Many thanks for this.. you may have just saved a life. 🙂

Tony Sibbald

Sean, you are so welcome. Thanks for visiting. Peace.


Thank you for posting this. I’ve started using this method in myself and I find it truly powerful.


Tony Sibbald

Ron, I am so happy you found it helpful. I know it has made a big difference in my life. Peace.

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